Finding Your One True Priority in Life

Lately the word “priority” has been sticking with me. I learned that when it first entered English in the 1400s, it was singular—there was just one “priority,” the first and most important thing. Only in the 1900s did we start talking about “priorities,” as if we could have many “most important” things at the same time.

As a Catholic, that little language shift makes me pause. If everything is a priority, then nothing really is—and for me, it raises the question: who or what actually comes first in my life? In my faith, God is meant to be that one priority, the One everything else flows from and returns to.

Another word that has been on my heart is “consecrated,” which means something set apart, made holy, reserved for a special purpose. In Catholic theology, to be consecrated is to belong to God in a particular way, to be given over to Him in love. The ancient burnt offerings in the Old Testament were a symbol of this: something given completely, not partly, to God.

Christians believe that Jesus is the “Lamb of God,” offered not as a thing, but as a living person who gives Himself totally for us, for our forgiveness and healing. In Jesus, God is not distant or abstract; He draws close and offers His whole self so that we can live in friendship and union with Him. Even if you do not share that belief, there is something moving about the idea of a love that holds nothing back.

What encourages me is that God does not just give words, but also gives a language of actions, symbols, and even our everyday choices to communicate with us. The way we order our time, our energy, and our “one priority” becomes its own kind of prayer—a way of saying, “This is who I belong to, and this is what I’m living for.” That feels like good news in a scattered world: we are invited into a simpler, deeper center.

A Scripture that captures this for me is Romans 12:1: “Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.” It speaks of life, not destruction: offering our ordinary selves—work, family, struggles, hopes—as something set apart for good, for love, for God. Whether or not you share my faith, it is an invitation to ask: what is my one true priority, and what am I willing to give myself to, wholeheartedly, in love?

As we close this reflection, please join me in prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ,
You are the one true priority and the Lamb of God, consecrated and given for our salvation.
Teach us to set our hearts on You above all things.
Gather our scattered desires into a single yes to Your will.
Consecrate our minds, our work, our relationships, and our rest,
so that all we are and all we do may be set apart for Your glory.
By Your Holy Spirit, make our lives a living sacrifice,
holy and pleasing to the Father, our true and spiritual worship.
Mary, Mother of God, and all the saints,
pray for us as we learn to live with one heart and one priority in Christ.
Amen.

Epiphany of the Lord

The Magi have come to see Jesus and pay homage to Him.

Matthew 2:1-12 tells the story of the Magi who come from the East, following a mysterious star, searching for “the newborn king of the Jews.” They arrive first in Jerusalem, which is exactly where you would expect a king of the Jews to be—but the real King is not in the palace with Herod, he is in hidden poverty in Bethlehem. Right from the start, Matthew is showing that God’s ways quietly overturn our expectations and that the true King is humble and vulnerable, yet worthy of adoration.thesoutherncross+2

When Herod hears about this child, he is frightened, and “all Jerusalem with him,” because a rival king threatens the fragile balance of his power. He gathers the chief priests and scribes, and they correctly identify Bethlehem as the place where the Messiah is to be born, quoting the prophecy that a ruler will come from Bethlehem who will shepherd God’s people. It is striking that the religious experts know the Scriptures but do not move an inch to seek the child, while pagan seekers from far away are willing to leave everything behind and follow the light God gives them.crs+2

The star reappears and guides the Magi to the exact place where the child is, and Matthew tells us they are “overjoyed” at seeing it. When they enter the house, they see “the child with Mary his mother,” and they fall to the ground in adoration, a gesture of worship that the Gospel reserves for God. Then they open their treasures and offer gold, frankincense, and myrrh—gifts that Catholic tradition reads as a kind of small creed in action: gold for Christ’s kingship, frankincense for his divinity, and myrrh for his future suffering and death. The same child who lies in his Mother’s arms will reign as King, receive our worship as God, and freely give his life on the Cross.catholic+2

The conclusion of the passage is quiet but important: having been warned in a dream not to return to Herod, the Magi go back to their own country “by another way.” On the surface this protects the child from Herod’s plans, but spiritually it also suggests that a real encounter with Christ changes a person’s path; after worshiping him, they cannot simply go back the way they came. The God who drew them by a star now directs their conscience and their choices, and they respond with obedience and trust.missions.ewtn+1

In the Catholic Church, this Gospel is proclaimed on the Solemnity of the Epiphany, which is one of the great feasts of the Christmas cycle. “Epiphany” means manifestation or revelation: in Bethlehem, Christ is revealed not only to Israel, but to the nations, represented by these learned Gentile visitors who adore him. In many older traditions, Epiphany was seen as the crowning feast of Christmas, and in the current Roman Rite the broader Christmas season concludes with the Baptism of the Lord, which is closely linked to Epiphany as another moment when Jesus is manifested publicly.nationalshrine+3

The Church has also kept some beautiful customs to remember this event. In many places, Epiphany is known as “Three Kings Day,” reflecting the long-standing tradition that there were three wise men, often named Caspar, Melchior, and Balthasar, who brought three royal gifts. One especially meaningful practice is the Epiphany house blessing, or “chalking the door”: the family uses blessed chalk to write something like “20 + C + M + B + 26” above the main entrance, with the numbers marking the year and the letters standing both for the names of the Magi and for the Latin prayer “Christus mansionem benedicat” – “May Christ bless this house.” It is a simple way of saying that, just as the Magi entered the house of the Holy Family and found Christ, we want our own home to be a place where Christ is welcomed, honored, and allowed to guide everything that happens inside.detroitcatholic+3

For a family reading this passage together at the close of the Christmas season, the story of the Magi raises gentle but serious questions. Amid school, work, and all the noise of ordinary life, are we more like Herod, defending our own plans, or like the Magi, willing to be interrupted and led by God, even when it means taking “another way” than we expected? The gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh can become a pattern for what each of you might offer Christ this year: the “gold” of your talents and achievements, the “frankincense” of your prayer and worship, and the “myrrh” of your sacrifices and hidden sufferings, freely given to him in love. In that sense, Epiphany is not only the conclusion of Christmas, but also a beginning—a moment to step into the new year with the same attitude as the Magi: eyes fixed on Christ, hearts open, and ready, if needed, to go home by a different road.mycatholic+2

​With Jesus’s birth, I have experienced a rebirth of my own in my career life. Directions I once took were redirected, and newer callings led me in ways I thought went astray, but later I would discover that there was greater purpose in store for me. In your reflections today, consider how in ways you have resisted God’s subtle guidance past our stubborness. Then think about the epiphany you experienced when you finally submitted and let it happen. The effect in my situations were eye opening and fulfilling. We do not know until God has revealed “by another way” that we realize our potential, and His mercy and grace at work in our lives.

Photo Credit, Painting:
Initial E: The Adoration of the Magi by Franco dei Russi
Original public domain image from Getty Museum

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Where Will You Be?

Eternity
How Will You Spend It?

Today’s reflection isn’t on designer perfume, but on the concept of “Eternity”. I just found that the ad campaign for this Calvin Klein product seemed fancy and eye-catching enough for the discussion.Ironically, this symbol of “high fashion” is an example of the material comforts that do not last the test of time and in fact, are a part of what we leave behind when we die.

As believers in Christ, we are reminded that life on earth is a mere temporary stop on our journey. Life here is intended only as a testing ground for what lies ahead: an eternal feast in the true presence of the Lord our God.

John 14:1-3
“Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”

There is a place for us that is prepared and not one of us spends a day more than God intends us to have on this earth.

Many of us grieve when we have lost a loved one also often ask the question “why“? Author Max Lucado said it best when he writes: “You and I both know I can’t answer that question. Only God knows the reasons behind his actions. But here is a key truth on which we can stand. Our God is a good God.” (Traveling Light, Max Lucado). As inspired in the Book of Psalms: “You are good, Lord. The Lord is good and right.” (Psalms 25:7-8) God’s plan may not be revealed completely to us, but the motivations are pure and loving; it truly is “for the good” that these things happen.

But how could death be good? Isaiah writes: “Good people are taken away, but no one understands. Those who do right are being taken away from evil and are given peace. Those who live as God wants find rest in death.” Death is God’s way of taking people away from evil.What is this evil that the Bible speaks of? It could be a number of things, but mostly they are the things that turn us away from God or the things that harm us or cause unnecessary suffering in ourselves and in others.

That’s where eternity comes into the picture. What length of time is our life here on earth compared to eternity? It’s almost nothing… “In God’s plan every life is long enough and every death is timely.” (Lucado) We all have our season of life and our time, though highly unpredictable is completely intentional and planned by the Lord.

Psalm 23:6
Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

These “days” are the eternity that believers long for – for those of us left behind to live, we should take comfort in the loss knowing that the sacrifice of Christ has ensured the continuation of the journey for the dead in the life of the world to come.